I recently saw an article that said that it is unhealthy to depend on another person to your detriment. This is true in diet and exercise as well as other areas of life. I’ve read a lot of diet message boards where it is obvious that the person put themselves last rather than taking care of themselves. I think this pertains more to woman who have taken care of kids more than it pertains to men. Although come to think of it, I know a lot of men who don’t get the proper nutrition and exercise. They get involved in their work and don’t take time for themselves.
We need one another. We don’t do well when isolated from other people. Remember Tom Hanks in Castaways? He so badly needed companionship that he began to think of a volleyball he found as a companion calling him Wilson. Well, it was a Wilson volleyball. He was so sorry when he lost Wilson at sea.
The other end of the spectrum is that we depend on other people too much. Both my mother and my mother-in–law never learned to drive. Actually my mother did but didn’t drive. They were dependent on their husbands to drive them. My mother walked a lot also. That wasn’t the kind of dependency that kept them from taking care of themselves. That was just the way it was with a one-car family.
Have you had a hero that let you down? Have you depended on someone and they let you down? People are often undependable. Being co-dependent on someone is a good way to fail in life because that person will let you down in some way, sometime, even if it’s just in your mind because your personal life goes unfulfilled.
When it comes to diet and fitness, everyone must take care of themselves. No one can eat right for you or do your exercises. You have to do it. You have to take care of yourself. Hopefully you have a spouse are a good friend who helps you and encourages you but isn’t codependent on you.
We have to be focused on ourselves if we really want to lose weight or get healthy. If there is any dependency involved it can’t be just in yourself, although you have to make the choices and you have to carry them out. Then only person we can totally depend on is God. Trust in the Lord, Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us in the Bible. There is a big difference in being selfless and selfish. The Bible teaches we are to put others first. But it also says to love your neighbor as yourself. Loving yourself means taking care of yourself. Walk in love with others and give selflessly to others but don’t let it keep you from taking care of yourself. You can rely on God’s amazing grace to help you through. And you aren’t in this alone. After all, someone wants you around for a long time.