“Aim for better every day, never perfect right away,” is Beth Donovan’s mantra. If you are a perfectionist, you try to make dieting perfect. There are diets that take into account you are not perfect. The 90/10 or the cheaters diet and many others take into account you are not going to eat perfect forever.
Perfection is a high goal. If you strive for it and miss, you will be a failure. If you do that often, you will be a complete failure–in your eyes. Failure is something you have to avoid. The best way is to eliminate it from your vocabulary.
We watched the college basketball payoff’s this year. There you will hear the coach say, “Failure is not an option.” In other words, it’s win or go home. We live in a very competitive culture. We get our little children involved in something competitive when they are little. We bowl on a team. We have chess matches. We even sit around with friends and play cards or board games.
We carry that competition into our dieting. We are in a race to lose. Or we set a goal and push to make it. If we reach the goal, we win. If we don’t, we lose. We reward winning and punish ourselves for losing.
I have a chart with my weekly weigh-ins. My goal is to lose something every week. I have a goal line on the chart. I want to stay below the goal line. Usually I don’t and soon the goal line which just steadily goes down, with no conscience whatsoever, and is out of sight. So I make a new goal line.
We have to get the idea of winning or losing out of the equation. If we are doing what we need to do most of the time, we are doing what we set out to do—lose weight. That’s why I don’t like weight loss competitions. There will be one winner who gets the prize, and everyone else loses.
I’ve said before that I like challenges, but I don’t like ‘lose 5 pounds by Valentine’s Day’ challenges. If you lose 5 pounds or more great, but if you did you best and didn’t make it, great. My suggestion is don’t put yourself in a competitive place, unless that is the only way you can motivate yourself to lose.
Do your best today. And try to do better tomorrow.